How To Prioritise Your Relationship After Having Kids

Having kids can be significant for many couples, as having a mini human to nurture is an amazing experience. Moreover, it's a great opportunity to learn new skills to cater to their little ones. Despite these, it's not uncommon for parents to lose sight of their partners when kids enter the picture. Things can change between you and your partner as more responsibilities roll in. That said, you may spend less time together than in the earlier phases of your relationship. Fortunately, you can still prioritise your relationship with the right strategies after having kids.

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1.Revive the tradition of date nights 

You may have stopped having date nights due to the stress and lack of time parenting brings. However, studies indicate that this practice can benefit you and your partner. For starters, you can assure your partner that you are still invested in them and your relationship, while enjoying each other's company without distractions from the kids. . Couples who go on regular dates are happier and more motivated to handle parenting as a team, so keep this in mind. Seeing these benefits, you want to revive date nights if you haven't already. The good news is you can be creative with your dates. For instance, when your little one is asleep, you can have an at-home date night by having a romantic dinner in the garden. Alternatively, you can spend your evening at a fancy restaurant. Regardless of your choice, you can get help from family members or hire a babysitter to watch over your kids. 

2. Check in daily with your partner 

A great way to bond with your partner is to check in with them daily. Indeed, this makes it easier to express yourself to them while strengthening emotional intimacy. Communication can also improve with this strategy, so make it a priority. Daily check-ins also allow you to reflect on your progress as individuals, a couple, and parents. It may sound daunting for parents, but it is achievable. Additionally, avoid talking about the kids during this period; instead, focus on your relationship, each other's achievements and struggles. Make sure to actively listen to your partner and offer your full support. 

3. Schedule time for intimacy 

Intimacy is a crucial aspect of a healthy relationship, and making time for it is beneficial. It is an effective way to connect and feel closer to your partner and allows you to show physical affection. Sex is also a great way to relieve stress, boost confidence, and feel sexy. However, it's not uncommon for parents to have less sexual intimacy. Fortunately, you can revive your sex life with the right steps if you fall into this category. And a great way to achieve this is by scheduling time for intimacy. This way, you can commit to it, but also make it exciting and something you really look forward to. Choose a specific day/days of the week, and set a reminder. Life gets busy and it is easy to get tired or forget, but try to make it a priority. You can send an exciting text to your partner before the scheduled date to remind them, but still make it fun. While at it, upgrade your foreplay game, and find ways to make sex more fun. While you might find scheduling sex essential, don't rule out spontaneous intimate moments. 

4. Make alone time a priority 

Kids and partners can make alone time seem impossible. However, research supports the need to spend time away from others. You have ample time to alleviate stress and unwind, making you more relaxed and less frustrated. Moreover, you can allow your partner to miss you and appreciate your presence in their life even more. Additionally, you can be a better parent to your kids when relaxed and happy, so keep this in mind. Admittedly, craving alone time may be tricky, especially if you don't want to make your partner feel like you need a break from them. Therefore, discuss the importance of having time apart from each other and the kids. Compromise is key; be supportive when your partner wants some time away. You can make your alone time more fulfilling by going to a spa, shopping, or simply sleeping in, so keep this in mind. Make some fun arrangements for your kids, ask your partner and family members for some help. And if you just had your first baby and want time alone, you can leverage these tips for new parents

5. Express gratitude for your partner 

Expressing gratitude for your partner is an effective way to strengthen your relationship. It promotes the release of oxytocin, the love hormone, which boosts your connection to your partner. Likewise, appreciating them can boost their confidence and motivate them to do more for you and the kids. Also, it trains you to focus on their positive traits instead of criticising them when they make mistakes. You can express gratitude in several creative ways. For example, you can write a thoughtful note daily to express your feelings or verbally communicate how glad you are to be their partner. Praising them before your kids, relatives and friends can also work, so feel free to consider this. You can also prepare their favourite meals or surprise them with their favourite experiences. 

6. Subtle PDA

While many think that public displays of affection (PDA) are unnecessary, that's far from reality. Indeed, subtle PDA is natural and lets your partner know that you love and cherish them. Admittedly, extreme PDA may make others uncomfortable, so make sure you do so without triggering anyone. For instance, you can kiss your partner on the cheek or forehead, simply hold hands or give them a hug. Respect others around you, and never go overboard with PDA. 

Reigniting your relationship is doable, even after having kids. Hopefully, you can use these tips.


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