Wednesday, 9 September 2015

Pressure to be perfect #LetGo

With my instagram feed full of perfect women allover the world, with perfect hair, perfect makeup, amazing careers, gorgeous homes and holidays I can only dream of, it is really hard not to feel the pressure to be perfect. Obviously... for most of us, it will be almost impossible, but does it really matter?

Apparently, 7 out of 10 women in the UK feel under pressure to be the 'perfect woman'. I totally get it and I know this feeling too well. That's why Sanctuary asked me to talk about their amazing campaign, encouraging women to  to relax, breathe and simply #LetGo. They want to inspire women to strive for balance in their lives, slow down and appreciate what really matters.

The video below made me cry and it also got me thinking about my own life. Yes... I might be a stay at home mum (well... a work at home mum), but I never stop! My mind very rarely switches off and I constantly worry about my neverending 'to do list'. 

Am I a good mum? 
Am I spending enough time with my kids? 
Am I giving my husband enough attention?
Should I get my act together and finally loose all the 'baby weight'?
What do others think of me?
Should I go back to full time work?
What if I continued with uni? Would I have a better career now?
My house isn't tidy enough...
I don't have a social life.
I spend too much of my free time on social media...
etc, etc, etc...

Those questions and thoughts are in my head very often, but why are we so worried about what other people think? Where did the need to be perfect come from? Is it all because of social media? Women are expected to be the perfect wife, an amazing friend, have at least one baby before they hit 30. Obviously... without compromising on their incredible careers in jobs everyone will envy. You also have to be a domestic goddess and stay super fit and sexy. Not forgetting about being incredibly smart too.

You know what? What about just being you, living in a moment, switching off your phone and taking a long bath, without worrying about all the things that need done. Think about all the positive stuff. What are you grateful for? What makes you happy?

 It’s time to #LetGo. 

Please watch this video, where a group of very wise women who really know what's important to life share some advice for the younger generation.




  1. I agree! We should all do what makes us feel happy and not compare ourselves to others as we are individuals for a reason x
    Emma | Emmys Beauty Cave

  2. So with you on this Sandra... the video made me ball my eyes out too! x

    Nic x

  3. I definitely relate to this a lot, I feel especially social media leads me to question my decisions and if I'm failing a bit at everything, that everyone else is having amazing experiences whilst I'm not. I will definitely take this on board xx

    Jasmine Talks Beauty

  4. That was such an honest post and that video reduced me to both tears and smiles, it was a lovely read, thank you so much for sharing that with us :)

    Phoebe -


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